The Couple That Works out Together, Stays Together

Yes, I, too, was hoping for something that rhymed, but I’m on a deadline, people (and so my title is in boring prose).

Let me start by saying that just having someone around, whether you’re working out or not creates accountability, energy, competency, and brotherhood (in this case—couplehood). I could quit right here, ’cause, damn, that’s a lot, but this is just the mere psychology of it all.

When working out with someone, anyone, there’s usually some kind of rhythm involved. If you’re jogging you’re keeping pace; if you’re lifting weights you’re doing it in sync. Even with yoga, the goal is to breathe into your poses—inhale, exhale, and so on. This feeling of being in tune or in sync with the person you’re exercising with doesn’t stop when you leave the gym, the park, the canyon, the pool, the course, the court, or the mat. Just as your muscle memory holds onto that move you just practiced, your mind logs the memory, too, of the companionship and unity you just experienced. Stands to reason working out as a couple can make your relationship more intimate. (Don’t worry guys; it’s intimacy without the work of all that listening.)

Accountability increases the chances of reaching your goals. Why? Because when people are held accountable they do things like “show up.” This means working out regularly. This means more weight loss, more muscle gain, better lifestyle choices, more confidence. I’m not a brain surgeon, but that spells more romance to me.

Exercise in many ways mirrors many of the physical attributes associated with arousal—the elevated heart rate, sweating, panting, that rhythm I just talked about, and noises—whether it be laughing or swearing during a workout—can sound a lot like sex. God, that was a great workout. Oh. My. God—that was great! Same time next week? Next week?! How ’bout tomorrow, baby? You betcha!

Exercise reduces stress. This fact has held up since the dawn of time. Here’s some more facts that have held up, too: Less stress is better for relationships. More stress is worse.

Exercise creates: better sleep, better moods, better self-image, better blood flow. And all those things combine to create a better sex life. Can you say blood flow?

So, what are you waiting for? Whether you’re starting a new relationship or celebrating your 25th year of marriage in 2017, exercising together will be a wonderful win-win addition to your coupleness.

Lisa Cerasoli
Author, mom, entrepreneur, and gal who likes to be fit