Exerdating is exactly what it sounds like: a combination of exercise and a date. It is when you exercise on a date—and with the rise of boutique fitness classes and a general interest in health and fitness, more and more people these days are hopping on the exerdating bandwagon. Of course, for the uninitiated, exerdating can still seem a bit counterintuitive. What about the wine, they ask? What about the good food? What about my sweaty hair? What about the fact that I get super red and puffy when I’m working out, and I don’t really want my date to see that? Those are all valid questions, yes. But exerdating converts know better.
For starters, one of the best things about exerdating is that it’s a great way to get to know someone pretty damn fast—moreso, in many ways, than the whole dinner and cocktails thing. Let’s say you and your date decide to go to a spin class together pretty early on in your relationship, for example. If you see him or her hustling hard on that bike, turning the knob harder and harder when the instructor tells you all to climb that hill, you’ll know that this is a person who is devoted to a cause. This is a hard worker. A hustler. This is someone who is unlikely to give up, someone who will likely not accept defeat too easily—all life qualities that are considered generally desirable in a human. Now, would you get to know that much about someone by sharing a bottle of Malbec and roasted brussels sprouts? Perhaps. But one of the great things about an exerdate is that you get to see your date walking the walk, not just talking the talk–and that real-life action can make a big difference. Plus, if you are a person who values personal fitness—which I assume you are if you’re reading this blog—then actually seeing your date sweat it out in class as opposed to just talking about it is also all of the proof you need that you share similar values.
Another perk of the exerdate: the natural high you both experience after your workout is over. Sure, getting a little wine drunk is great and all, but that endorphin rush you experience after sweating your face off is the real deal, man. Call me crazy, but I think getting to chill with someone in that period of post-workout bliss can reveal greater insights about their true, natural personality than a bottle of liquid courage ever can. My suggestion: After your workout is over, go get a coffee or a green smoothie—or, hell, you could even throw down for some brunch and mimosas. The point is, you’ll both feel so high on life after your workout that your experience will be that much more enjoyable.
And as for the whole date outfit thing? Fortunately, we live in an age of no-makeup selfies and adorably cute workout gear. I have a guy friend who told me that he prefers going on exerdates for first dates so that he can see what his date actually looks like from the get-go, as opposed to how she looks when she’s all done up in makeup. It’s a great way to get to the heart of the matter more quickly, and if both parties are willing to ~go there~ right away, it can only mean good things for their future together. Plus, workout clothes are so stylish these days—for both girls and guys—meaning the whole “cool date outfit” thing still totally applies. In fact, I actually find it easier to dress “cute” when I’m wearing workout gear than when I’m wearing normal clothes!